Different Dimensions

In another moment Alice was through the glass... on Flickr © Sarajea

It's fascinating how 2 people can be living in the same dimension yet have totally different perspectives. Sometimes those 2 people are completely unaware that their viewpoints are like the North & South Poles. But most times, one person is acutely aware of both ways they each view the world (as different as their paradigms may be) while the other is blissfully clueless.

For example, two people may be living their lives in completely different beliefs and purposes. My friend's a vegetarian, I'm not. I believe in working for what I want, someone else may live life to the fullest daily in instant gratification. Conflict only ensues when the worlds collide, and someone wins while another loses. Otherwise, it doesn't matter if I cannot comprehend your values.

In the case of unrequited love, one person is blissfully leading her own life while the other is dying a slow death everyday. Switch it around a little - when she finds out, she holds knowledge of both sides. The admired one is painfully conscious of how much she does not return his affections as well as how much the admirer likes her. He, however, cannot see past his own mirror of blind hope.

Another example: You may call someone your best friend but they do not feel the same. Unfortunately, you have no idea and so you persist in your lavish attentions, ignorant of how much the person is trying to avoid you.

In the same way, hate and vengeance only hurts the hater. All the effort you put into mustering up that dislike for a person affects you alone. The other party knows nothing and feels nothing. In the end, you're the one who gets eaten up inside.

Once you've gone through an experience, it makes you more open to another's viewpoint. When you actually feel what it's like to be in another's shoes, then only can you imagine yourself in their position. Once you hit that stage, it's a matter of choice. You choose what you believe, or choose to remain in denial.